When we found out we were pregnant with our sweet baby number three, Jordan and I had already been discussing names. I have an enormous powerhouse of a name list in the notes section of my phone. It has been a running document, so to speak, of names I/we have come across in the last six years that struck our desire and heart strings for naming future bab(ies).
When we heard the name Parker for the firs time, we were watching a random television show, and one of the main characters in that show carried the name Parker, and did it well. She was absolutely adorable, spunky, and really, really funny. Almost in the same instant, we looked at each other and nodded in agreement that Parker was an amazing name, and we were going to use it.
When we heard our top boy name for the first time, about 6 years ago, I was standing in church and turned around to introduce myself to the young guy next to me, and he sounded out his name – I almost rhetorically responded by asking him to spell it.
He was so cool. Long beach wavy hair, olive skin, and tall, tall, tall. So. Theres that name.
Choosing Jolie’s name was a little different. We had an entirely different name selected for that sweet baby A in my belly. Things changed after a few comments were made.. and honestly, I couldn’t imagine her being any other name but Jolie Grace. Jolie was a name I had only seen about a billion times in the tabloids (see also: Angelina), but never met anyone with that name before. In fact, that name was at the bottom of my master name list – but over dinner one evening, Jordan mentioned that name and I couldn’t get it out of my mind.
So, she was named and we never looked back.
Up until the excitement of this baby girl number three came about, I had never ever, ever, ever,
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shared my powerhouse name list with anyone. No one.
I keep calling it a powerhouse name list, because thats exactly what it is.
Its long. Its good. Good for me/us anyway.
I made the mistake of sharing it recently, and the names I had kept secret and near and dear to my heart for years were being shared all over the place.. even being used for names of their own babies. I want to be clear that I KNOW I do not have sole ownership of ANY name, but it was very clear that those names were gleaned from my list. And these are friends I’m talking about. I was crushed. I cried my little pregnant heart out for a week straight. Probably wouldn’t have bothered me as much if hormones wouldn’t have been on their usual roller coaster. But, everyone had their opinions, thoughts, and expressions that I didn’t care to hear at all one bit – and basically it hurt my feelings, and I am allowed to have those.
Names at the top of my boy list being called ‘girly’.
Names at the top of my girl list being called ‘interesting’.
This was all before we actually knew what we here having yet. I was already over the name selection before it even had a chance to be started.
After the short lived annoying chaos that was naming Jolie, we decided then that we would never share another baby name ever again.
And after the experience I had in recently sharing my baby name list, it solidified my reasonings of not wanting to share our ‘top names’ even more.
We have selected a name, and it is perfect. I started praying for her by name and calling her by name, and talking to her by name. It sticks. It is precious. It is perfect.
Honestly, I don’t care if you hate it. When it came to naming this sweet girl, I am the one that has to love it, and I completely understand if not everyone loves our decision. But once this sweet girl has arrived.. I double dog dare you to tell me you hate it.
When I told someone that were not sharing the name, their smart comment in return was ‘I hate the name already.’
Good for you. What is actually GOOD for me is that I know the name and YOU do not.
Not for another 20 weeks or so, that is:)
It is the number one question I get these days- “Does baby girl have a name?” Yes, yes she does.
I sent my running name list to Jordan the week before we found out gender, and he picked his favorites out of that list, and the name we picked for her name was one of them. The name we picked wasn’t a name that was in my own ‘top’ list at all. Wasn’t even a name I thought I liked all that much. The moment I read his list and thought about it, and pictured our family of four calling our newest member by this name, I couldn’t get it out of my head.
Above all other reasons for not sharing her name before she arrives, we want to keep her special. Parker and Jolie get a lot of attention for many reasons, but also simply that they are twins. There are two at the same time, and that in itself is absolutely amazing to people. I wanted to keep Baby Three and this pregnancy as special & different as I possibly can. Carrying twins was such a unique experience, and I want this pregnancy to be just as unique:) She is SO special to us. Literally our miracle baby. The baby that I was beginning to think that I was never going to be able to carry beyond 10 weeks. The baby that happened on God’s timing, and we are so very thankful.
20 more weeks, and you guys.. it is flying.
I am in no way trying to seek attention on this post.
It is my way of expressing our reasons for not sharing out baby girl’s name before she is born, and in no way am I attempting to offend anyone.
This is my outlet and a safe place for me to express my own opinions:)
Harassing and just plain rude comments will not be tolerated or published.
I will not be attacked from behind a computer screen for many reason but most importantly because you are not only attacking me, but those that commented with support.